Dance is a language of physical exercise that sparks new brain cells (neurogenesis) and their connections. These connections are responsible for acquiring knowledge and thinking. Dancing stimulates the release of the brain-derived protein neurotropic factor that promotes the growth, maintenance, and plasticity of neurons necessary for learning and memory. Plus, dancing makes some neurons nimble so that they readily wire into the neural network. Neural plasticity is the brain’s remarkable ability to change throughout life. As a method of conveying ideas and emotions with or without recourse to sound, the language of dance draws upon similar places and thought processes in the brain as verbal language. *Dance feeds the brain in various kinds of communication.

Lucid dreaming

Its your chance to play around with the extraordinary abilities buried in unused parts of your brain. Regardless of whether your are superhuman in real life or not, lucid dreaming is a way for you to put the deepest areas of your brain to good use while you’re sleeping.

Even though the term "lucid" means clear, lucid dreaming is more than just having a clear dream. *To have a lucid dream you must know that it’s a dream while you’re dreaming.* That's it. It doesn't require that you can control anything in your dream, though control is what beginning lucid dreamers often aim at. People get attracted to lucid dreaming because they want to be able to do things they could never do in waking reality.

The ability to utilize sleep as a problem-solving technique isn’t limited to a select few. We all are capable of making similarly important discoveries in our own dreams. The key is to gain lucidity.

Lucid dreaming is a hybrid state that is characterized by both waking and dream consciousness. Although it’s bio-mechanically similar to ordinary sleep, the consciousness accompanying lucid dreams lies in the higher activity level of the frontal areas of the brain.

In fact, lucid dreaming can be very effective in getting rid of general fears and phobias. It can function as a type of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), a type of treatment employed by many psychologists for severe obsessive-compulsive disorder, among other conditions.

The idea behind CBT is the best way to to get over fear of a particular situation is to place yourself in that situation over and over again until your brain becomes desensitized to the trigger.

There are at least four levels of lucid dreaming:

1. Knowing that you are dreaming
2. Being able to control your own dream actions in a wake-like fashion
3. Being able to manipulate your dream surroundings
4. Being able to manipulate the dream actions of other people in your dreams

You can conscious start dreaming about the recovery and the outcome when cured. Fly ad swim through space with joy and freedom void of your challenge. See yourselves performing all tasks par your conscious limitations !

THE FORGIVENESS PATTERN OUTLINE - HOW TO FORGIVE USING NLP?

This pattern was developed by Connirae and Steve Andreas and participants in a six-day intensive workshop in March 1990. It is useful for anyone who is angry or resentful/ blaming, particularly if it is long-standing, and the person who harmed him/her is dead, or out of the person's life. This outline of the pattern presupposes considerable NLP training, particularly in submodalities, and in shifting (and aligning) perceptual positions.

General Frames.
The goal of this pattern is to bring peace and resolution to the person feeling anger or resentment. Forgiving others (or yourself) does not mean condoning the behavior that harmed you (or someone else), or giving up the values that were violated. An important part of the pattern is to reaffirm your own values and criteria and use them to develop ways of coping resourcefully. The resolution and integration that forgiveness brings will make it easier to take effective action to uphold your values and standards in the future.

1. Resentment/Anger. Identify the person and the incident you are still angry/ resentful about, and with whom you would like to reach a feeling of forgiveness and resolution. Take a moment to notice how you think of this person and incident now. (Calibrate to client's nonverbal responses.)

2. Forgiveness. Identify an experience of forgiveness in your past. There are two major choices for this resource experience:

a. You once resented someone, but when you think of that person now it is with a feeling of forgiveness and compassion.
b. Someone harmed you, and you forgave him/her right away because you recognized that they harmed you accidentally, or that they were doing the best they could, etc. For instance, a small child hurt you, and you instantly recognized that he couldn't possibly do otherwise, or understand the consequences of what s/he did. (Calibrate to client's nonverbal responses.)

3. Contrastive Analysis. Compare the experiences in steps 1. and 2. above to determine the submodality differences between the two, particularly location.

4. Test Submodality Differences. One at a time, change the submodality differences of the resentment/anger experience to make it like the experience of forgiveness. Notice which submodalities are the most powerful "drivers" in changing resentment/anger to forgiveness. (Typically location will be the strongest.)

5. Ecology Check. "Does any part of you have any objection to reaching forgiveness with this person?" The most common objections are of two types:

a. Meaning. Forgiveness would mean condoning the harmful behavior that violated the person's values and standards, or that forgiveness would mean something about the client, for instance, that he's a wimp, etc. Reframe.
b. Forgiveness would eliminate a positive function, usually protection from a repeat occurrence of the harm. Separate this positive function from anger or forgiveness, and provide specific behavioral responses to accomplish this protective function without the need to get angry.

Satisfy all objections - at least conditionally - before proceeding to step 7.

6. Step into "Other" Position. First take the observer position to observe yourself and the person who "harmed" you from the outside, in the context in which are were harmed. Then step into the other person, noticing what you can learn that is new to you about this person's experience. What additional information do you get about how this person sees, hears, feels, and understands events? (This will be much easier and more effective after aligning perceptual positions.) "Do you realize that this person (and yourself) was doing the best s/he could in this situation, given this person's background, limited knowledge or motivation, etc.?" Take time to be sure this presupposition is in place.

7. Transform Resentment/Anger into Forgiveness by "mapping across" all submodalities, starting with the more powerful "driver" submodalities you identified in step 4. (Often changing location alone willl be enough.) As you do this, be sensitive to any emerging objections or reluctance, and satisfy them before proceeding.

8. Test. "Think of the person you used to feel resentment/anger toward. How do you feel about him/her now?" Calibrate to the nonverbal responses, comparing with what you observed previously at steps 1. and 2. Usually the incident of harm will now be the past, while the person who has been forgiven will be in the present and/or future, and with a feeling of neutrality or compassion.

Get rid of loneliness, the entire universe is within you?

We live in a big world of more than 7 billion people but deep in our hearts we are lonely souls trying to find our way. Social pain is not very different from physical pain as research interestingly proves that loneliness impacts our health in a greater way than smoking or obesity. Researchers have proved that loneliness and rejection activate the same parts of the brain as physical pain.

Basically, humans are social animals with the need to feel a sense of belongingness but surprisingly, we are becoming the loneliest animals on the planet. Many researchers predict that we can soon expect a “loneliness epidemic,” which when prolonged can increase early death by 30%.

Then everything boils down to one basic question as to why are we getting lonelier?

The modern lifestyle seems to have an answer to this. Our families are shrinking from big joint families to lonelier nuclear families far away from our roots, our extended families and friends, with no time to spend together. We live in a virtual world of laptops and mobile phones with no face to face interaction. We are less connected to people and our relationships have become more superfluous and less rewarding.

So, how do we connect ourselves with more people and get rid of loneliness?

1. Know yourself better

“Being alone does not mean we are lonely and being lonely does not mean we are alone.”

The most important question is how comfortable we are being left on our own without any gadgets and people around. As the science of NLP ( Neuro Linguistic Programming) rightly says, “We are a product of our environment, our behaviors, our capabilities, our beliefs and values, our identity and our sense of purpose”. Unless we understand and accept ourselves completely we cannot appreciate the company of others. When we connect with others without understanding ourselves we are running away from ourselves and desperately distracting ourselves with new company which mayn't be fruitful. When we break our inner chains we can see the beauty outside.

2. Interact with People and join groups with similar interests.

“People with many interests live, not only the longest, but also the happiest.”

How long has it been since we spoke to someone new? Strike up a conversation with the person next door or someone we met on the way to work or a jogger at the running trail that we frequent.It’s a bigger world with lot more people and a fair chance to connect with many of them if we stop giving ourselves excuses.If we don’t limit ourselves to the current reality and spread our wings the world looks lot more beautiful. We all have an intrinsic need to feel accepted by others, and connecting with like-minded people could turn out to be the best decision we’ve made for our mental and emotional health.

When we share a common bond with people it’s easier to connect with them and overcome loneliness. How do we do that? Well then it’s not really that difficult. Watch out for local meetups and groups that might interest us and join them. Check out for groups related to our hobbies like trekking, cycling etc. Though it looks like a big world, it’s not really that big and we might end up with like-minded people who might also be looking out for friends like us. The big thing surely is to stop hesitating.

3. Replace gadgets and technologies with people.

“Our cell phones have already replaced our camera, our calendar, our alarm clock… let’s not let it replace our family”

We are lost in the world of smart phones, laptops and other gadgets. Talking to people online is much easier and comfortable than a face to face interaction. However we don’t realize that the drawbacks of being in a virtual world is far more ghastly than a face to face interaction. We can’t see their expressions while online, or feel the energy of the person through the computer or phone. If we limit our technology usage to the minimum level we will have far more time to connect with people and share commonalities. Now the question is where do we start? Start at our workplace, the park where we go jogging every morning or our neighbors. It’s easier to connect with people in the places we visit often and develop great friendships.

4. Understand your feelings and check if they are close to reality or not.

“Pay attention to your gut feelings. No matter how good something looks, if it doesn’t feel right , walk away”

When we feel lonely check whether it’s a temporary feeling. When we share a strong bonding with friends and family, being away from them for a while can make us feel very lonely and that is temporary. Connecting back to our circle of people via a phone call resolves this. Sometimes being lonely can be a boon if we try to reconnect with our inner self by spending some time alone. This self-reflection can be very helpful as it helps us understand our own feelings and emotions as our feelings may not always mirror reality. The science of NLP helps us to manage our emotions and in turn our life better and in a more fruitful way.

5. Instead of paying attention to  your own feelings, focus your attention on helping others.

“We rise by lifting others.” – Robert Ingersoll

More often the things we take for granted are things someone else is praying for. Take time out to think about people who are not as privileged as us, who have nothing to look forward to in the tomorrows, and no people to call their own. Volunteering for social causes helps us as much as the society. While we learn to appreciate the things and people in our life, we also get a feel of seeing the other side of life.

6. Involve yourself in activities that you truly enjoy.

“The time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”

We don’t always have to join groups to overcome loneliness. We can meet new people at the regular places we visit like parks, workplace or while trekking,or cycling or maybe a new buddy at your gym. There are innumerable ways to make new friends along the way. The only important thing is to release our fears about meeting new people.

On a final note, if we focus on our similarities more than our differences, we can build a strong foundation for a lasting friendship with anyone using our NLP based rapport building skills.

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What’s different in Positive People

“We can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.”

Life is a reflection of what we think, if our thoughts are negative, the world we see will be the same. But how do we stay positive in this negative world?

This can be practised using NLP techniques and tricks which will make positivity our second nature. Our mindset is everything, it can make a difference between success and failure. The Law of attraction says that we attract everything in our life through our thoughts so if we change our thoughts we change the reality. The approach is simple - be positive and our life, the people we meet, our experiences, everything will be positive.

Why is it that some people radiate positive energy wherever they go and in whatever they do while others don’t? It’s because they see a silver lining behind every cloud. Can we learn to be positive and change our life the way we want to?

Yes, we can and here’s “how” -

1. STOP PLAYING VICTIM.

“Some people create their own storms and then get mad when it rains”

The NLP technique of Blame frame / Outcome frame can help us better. When anything negative happens positive people do not look for a place to dump blame, they instead look at the alternatives available to make things positive again. When we blame people or situations, we shut doors to solutions that might possibly open new ways to approach the challenge in hand. We deprive ourselves of the power to think differently and do differently. We are responsible for our thoughts and therefore the outcome in any given situation. By thinking differently, we can change our thoughts, our perspective towards people involved and also the situation, and finally break old patterns of behaviour leading to better solutions.

2. TREAT OURSELVES LIKE ROYALTY.

“The way we treat ourselves sets the standard for others”

Positive people love themselves and take time out for themselves. They exercise regularly, eat nutritious foods and maintain a healthy lifestyle. They take time out for themselves and hold a job that makes them happy. They know that unless we are happy, we cannot make others happy. They work tirelessly to transform mental blockages and gain strength from them to lead a more positive life. When we treat ourselves royally, others will automatically respect us for what we are.

3. DON’T LOOK FOR HAPPINESS RATHER CREATE IT.

“The ones who find happiness are the ones who don’t make excuses. If it’s broken, they fix it, if it’s wrong they make it right.”

As goes the NLP presupposition, positive people believe that we have all the resources we need or we can create them so they are always happy. Happiness is a state of mind that can be created when we learn to accept that we can create our own resources. They build up each day of their life with positive thoughts, positive actions and positive relationships. Their thoughts their actions and relationships radiate their positivity. Though the events and situations in life may not always reflect their happiness, they have filled themselves with so much positivity, that it naturally spills over and spreads to others. They don’t need anything outside themselves for happiness, because they have created it from within their own hearts.

4. BE COMFORTABLE TRYING NEW THINGS

“Never be afraid of trying something new. Because life gets boring when we stay within the limits of what we already know”

While staying in the comfort zone and playing safe is easy, finding greener pastures can be really exciting and fun. Sticking to the comfort zone doesn’t change anything in our life, be it the events, the people, or the situations, nothing really changes. Positive people know that comfort zone stagnates growth so they love to push past the doubts and insecurities of trying new avenues. They believe in themselves and their ability to achieve greater success in the unventured paths of life.

5. STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF

“Sometimes life is hard, but sometimes we make it harder than it really is.”

Life puts forward it’s challenges and positive people know that brooding over a situation doesn’t help anyone. So they put trivial matters aside and keep moving forward towards their goals. Though from time to time difficult situations test their patience and willpower, they don’t get carried away. They face the storm and make a way through it. They don’t allow small stuff to kill their inner spirit and enthusiasm. This motivates them to look through a 360 degree perspective and look at things in different angles. They understand that without the negatives we forget to appreciate the positive we have in each situation.

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